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Melbourne’s grief: how to help your children (and yourself)

Melbourne’s grief: how to help your children (and yourself)

There is a lot of information to help parents and schools support children through the death of a friend and through the trauma of a city in mourning. I have noticed, however, that there seems to be no mention of ACTIONS to reconnect children to what is meaningful and hopeful. We all, adults and children alike, need to express our worries; be comforted; and maintain good health practices. We will also be helped by DOING something that connects us to the tragedy in a loving and values-driven manner.
*Write and colour a card for the family,
*Give charity in the name of the lost friend, (offer services to the community for a price and donate the money)
*Spend the day as a family, consciously appreciating each other and your blessings,
*Make a photo album of the lost friend and record good times,
*Bake, cook, and help out the bereaved families,
*Engage in social activism and social justice programs,
Ask yourselves WHY are you shaken and grieving so? The answer is your clue to what you need to do to cope. For example, if the answer to why, is “because I am going to miss her so much”, make an album, plan ways to keep her memory in your life. If the answer is, “because this has rattled my security”, then connect to what helps you feel safe and truly appreciate your time with loved ones. If the answer is, “because our laws about bail and police pursuit are failing us”, write to the newspaper, contact your local MP etc.
Cuddles are vital; expression is fundamental; and ACTION is the way through and forward- tiny steps at a time.

Executive Function Difficulties and Finding Dory

Executive Function Difficulties and Finding Dory

Have you taken your children to see Finding Dory? This movie could be helpful for children with executive function difficulties. Dory has memory difficulties yet , as Marlin discovers, she has developed excellent compensatory skills that enable her to meet her many challenges. Dory’s self esteem is saved when Marlin and Nemo learn to celebrate her unique approach: “What would Dory do?” becomes their strategy!

The movie also emphasises the importance of belonging and being connected to your family history in order to develop a strong sense of self, but I’ll leave that theme for another time.

Here is an opportunity to have some great family chats in the car or over hot chocolate after the movie! I’d love to hear your thoughts on the movie…

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Yoga and mediatation for children

Yoga and mediatation for children

Sometimes I think the single most important recommendation I give to my client families -after emphasising parent-child attachment- is to get yourself and your kids meditating, doing yoga, practising calm-breathing. I promise you, most of the other recommendations I give, can only be followed through on when you are calm and regulated. Without a settled nervous system, the rest is just theory that is too hard to put into practice when it matters most. …..aaaaand exhale 🙂

http://www.abc.net.au/news/2015-12-18/mindfulness-relaxation-trial-records-overwhelming-benefits/7039114

Students lie on the floor with their eyes closed

Body Image and Your Young Child

Body Image and Your Young Child

I dream of a community in which we could raise our children surrounded by body positivity such as this! Healthy body image is like developing herd immunity with vaccinations: it only takes a few negative body messages to undo the good work at home or school. We need to develop a herd immunuty effect for healthy body image (and child safety- but that’s another topic).

https://www.romper.com/p/9-body-positive-terms-you-need-to-…

Connect to Calm

Connect to Calm

Remember: connect to calm. Calming down from a state of heightened emotion is not a rational, reasoned choice that anyone swtiches on because they’ve been told to; it is the natural by-product of being held, understood, and given safe shelter. Calm is the result of the pause

Paris 13/11/15

Paris 13/11/15

Be conscious of what your children are exposed to over the coming days on tv, the internet, and newspapers. We adults can’t get our heads around what has happened in Paris; our children certainly can’t. It’s a big world growing ever smaller. To children it is smaller still – Paris could be the next suburb for all they know. Protect them. Look after yourself too. Look for goodness and kindness.

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A weekend wish for all parents

A weekend wish for all parents

My wish for all this weekend: some time with a friend or partner, some time with your children, and some time alone doing something you love. How might you make that happen?

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Child Safety – empowering our children

Child Safety – empowering our children

Here’s a little song I made up for a kindergarten session on Keeping Safe that I am doing tomorrow:
(to the tune of This Old man)
“Stop, Run, Tell
Stop, Run, Tell.
I can do this very well.
I can be safe.
All can be well.
I will try to Stop, Run, Tell.”
The children will learn to apply this message whenever they feel unsafe- this includes dangerous play; upsetting secrets;& unwanted touch. I’ll post the other song I made about early warning signs in our bodies when I remember the name of the song I took the tune from!!

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